We usually look at a marriage from where we stand. This asks you to walk a mile in your spouse's shoes, and to call right right and wrong wrong.
Your counsellor has given you a code. You and your spouse share the same code and answer separately.
Which of you is answering?
Thank you. Your answers are with your counsellor.
Nothing here is shared with your spouse. Your counsellor will go through it with both of you together.